Sometimes the reality is our true desires can lead to painful outcomes. After all, if human beings weren't fueled by desire, there wouldn't be any heartbreak or bitter wars. But at the same time, desire is essential to human existence. And it's not enough to say that a life without desire would be boring. Living without desire is practically impossible. Through this podcast, you will discover what to watch out for when learning to recognize your desires. You learn how to be guided by your desires toward a more authentic and fulfilling life. So please bring in your pen and paper and note down all the key ideas or takeaways. Till then, I shall wait for you. Hello all, I'm Kapil Gupta, founder of Study Abroad Academy. I'm on a mission to coach and mentor 100,000 high school students and help them realize the dream of studying in the best universities of the world and build happy careers for themselves. Today I'm going to introduce you to the desire map and will give you five key ideas that will help you work on your desires. I believe all of you are ready to note them down. So let's get started. And if you need to pause the podcast to note down, please do that. Key idea one. Desire is the power of wanting. It's a powerful force for creativity. And when we desire something, we're willing to give up a lot of time to plan to make it happen. Desire can be frustrating, thrilling, and it can even fill us with despair. No matter what, desire forces us to get creative with how it's we are going to get or what it is we want. Desire also pushes us to evolve as a person. Desire not only shows what it is we might be struggling with in our current moment, but it also shows what we want most in life. Oftentimes, fear gets in the way of us working toward our desires for the future. Through conquering these fears, we can also work through our dissatisfaction with our lives as we work up the courage to achieve what it is we truly desire. And now this is precisely what helps us grow as individuals. Finally, desire is what pushes us to keep going in life. Could you imagine living wanting anything ever again? If we didn't have the desire for food, love, sex, companionship or achievement, we wouldn't have any motivation to do anything. In other words, our desire fuels us. So, next is key idea number two. That is, listening to your emotions will actually help you get through life decisions. Oftentimes people tell us to make decisions based not on feelings, but on facts. Have you ever wondered why? Most people prefer facts because facts measure truth, while feelings might be misleading. But what about more powerful emotions like sadness? Something like a tough breakup might give you very intense emotions, which can actually make it hard to concentrate on work for a while. And these types of emotions can be incredibly distracting. So being told to focus on work can actually equate to like ignoring our feelings. No matter what, people might tell you, make sure, remember the importance of your feelings. These co-desired feelings stick with you for life. You should let these feelings guide you through life. Imagine being stuck in a job that's incredibly boring, although it pays well. So if you dread going to work every day before leaving the house, this might be a sign that you need something new in your life. And if you're being rational and logical, you wouldn't want to give up your income. But you will feel much more fulfilled if you follow your feelings rather than money. So coming on to key idea number three. That is to allow yourself to feel desires without the pressures of other people so that you can welcome the unexpected. Figuring out what your true desires are can not only enlighten you, but it can liberate you. So many people waste time trying to figure out what they think it is they desire. But unfortunately, the reality is most people often chase things that others desire for them. If, for example, you want to get married before you hit a certain age, or if you're pushing yourself to earn a certain amount of money by the end of the year, really think about whether this is a goal you want or if it's because of the pressure of other people. What are your real desires? Once you figure this out, you'll be able to find out whether you're simply trying to prove yourself to others and free yourself from this habit. Once you are aware of this tendency, you'll be able to truly start making the best choices for you. Knowing your real desires will help you, guide you towards the opportunities that would make a difference for you. Let's say you desire to feel loved or want to make a contribution to the lives of others. Now, for a goal like this, a six-figure salary might not be of some good help, but volunteering at a refugee shelter will definitely be. Sometimes chance encounters can also come into play when it comes to helping you figure out what you really want out of life. So if something unexpected comes your way, don't ignore it. It's important to treasure each and every moment when our desires might come into our lives by chance. These moments might allow you to reach a new level of awareness while gaining plenty of new experiences. Now, key idea number four. That is, if you dread a certain goal, it might not be worth chasing it. What I mean by this is that have you ever worked really hard toward a goal and still felt empty even once you achieved it? Now that simply means that goals like that aren't in line with your true desires. So drop them. Goal setting can be daunting and nerve-wracking, but each goal should make us feel excited and happy too. So if you're dreading a goal, it probably isn't worth spending your time trying to achieve it. So create goals that not only feel like you could achieve them, but also that are in line with your values and desires. So when you're inspired by your goals, you'll have a better time achieving them. What happens when you reach one of your goals, though, and still feel hungry for more? And this is very natural. This means that your creativity has been sparked, and now your mind is looking for more chances to grow and evolve. It could be the case that you feel like you're capable of achieving things you never expected you could do before. For example, publishing your first poem. Now that might give you the confidence to enter some storywriting competition. And getting runners up in one of those competitions might actually inspire you to start working towards running your own publication. Now our desires grow and grow in this way. So it's important to keep setting goals to grow with them. It's also important to make sure your goals feel right to you. So while reaching a goal might feel really good, it's also important that you don't sacrifice other important things, such as relationships you care about or a lifestyle you love. It's also important that you don't push other people away. In fact, it'll mean even more to you if you help other people fulfill their goals while working towards your own. So now key idea number five. That is, in order to arise above your weaknesses, it's important to make peace with them. And what I mean by this is like, uh let me ask you, do you have dreams of becoming an acclaimed writer, a successful designer, or something else? But keep neglecting your plans? Now it could very well be that a little voice in your head keeps telling you that these aspirations just aren't realistic. Now, this is exactly the voice that you must ignore. Make peace with the goals you want to achieve, no matter what kind of goal it is. If your goals make you feel good, then you need to make sure you don't criticize yourself for your desires. This also means that you should show your friends and family equal support for their goals. Everybody should be free to do whatever it is they desire, from opening their own restaurant to rescuing injured animals. What happens if your desires are at odds with each other? Now this happens quite often. You might love alone time. So much you dream of living in a secluded cabin in the woods, but you might also be a mother of three toddlers. Sound conflicting? Well it is. Now when this happens, it's important to make a choice. However, choices can be blessings in disguise. By choosing what it is you want more, you make room for more future desires to manifest, which could actually lead you to find happiness in places where you would never expect to. So our own limitations can also be obstacles. And in fact, nobody is invincible. So you might have a family, a limited budget, or health issues to be concerned with. So whatever your limitations are, they aren't a reason to give up on your dreams. So keeping that in mind, you also shouldn't chase your goals without acknowledging that these limitations exist. Simply admit them to yourself and learn to work with them. This will allow you to work towards your desires and do so in a healthy way, which can lead to figuring out new ways to overcome certain problems. So I would say the key message of the podcast is that desire is one of the most important characteristics to human existence. It allows us to be creative and helps us to grow as people. It's important to make sure you don't get tied down by goals that other people have in mind for you and that you make peace with any weakness or obstacles you might have. So keeping your heart and mind open to opportunity will allow you to really benefit from the positive effects of desire. And what could be my actionable advice? That is focus on what you already trust. And let me ask you, have you ever felt that nervous rush before an important event? Whether you are facing a test, a decisive match, or a daunting speech? Now this rush can be disadvantaged if you don't learn to work with it. I might say I had the same feeling when when I went for the my first podcast. So focusing on what you know for sure is a way to silence your inner pessimist. Making a list of things that are already working out great for you is an amazing way to gain comfort, calm yourself down, and boost your confidence. So I hope you find this podcast useful. 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